28 Autumn Moons | BLOGTOBER 🍂☕🎃

by - 10/08/2018

Today (October 8) is my birthday! Here's what I've learned.

 1 | Your 'gut feeling' is usually right. There is nothing wrong with walking away from a situation if you feel something isn't right. Even if everything looks normal and fine, if you feel like it's not, even just a little, then leave. If someone is going to judge you for that, maybe they were the bad feeling.

2 | Self Care is super important. It seems like such a menial thing, but it matters in a lot of ways. I've gotten caught up in helping others and doing everything for everyone but myself. It's how I blacked out and cracked my head open. Ten staples and eight years later, I'm still learning how to do this, but it's getting better.

3 | You really don't need to like everyone. Nowhere is it written down that you need to like someone to have a relationship with them. I'm talking working, casual, familial, or acquaintance relationship. You don't need to like someone to be polite and courteous.

4 | Open up. To those closest to me, they might know I keep to myself a lot. I don't like getting too emotional, I don't like talking about my feelings. I feel like I show my feelings enough on my face, but that's been proven to not be correct. This is still something I'm working on, but it's important that you don't keep everything in, especially to those in your inner circle.

5 | People grow apart. This one hit me rather hard this year. When you stop to look around and realize how many people aren't in your life anymore, it makes you think. Sometimes it was nothing either party did wrong; people just drift. Real life happens and some things become more important. Cherish the ones you still trust and have.

6 | There are no 'cheat' days. In the ever difficult world of weight loss, I've heard my fair share of cheat days. The day when you can eat whatever you want and not feel guilty about it. I've been trapped in that circle and have wondered why do I need a certain day to eat whatever I want? Just eat it! No guilt, no shame, in moderation.

7 | Exercising is more than just losing weight. This is a more recent discovery. I used to work out to maintain and now, currently, to lose weight. But it's more than that. We're meant to work out and exercise to keep everything working properly. Exercising won't fix everything, but it's definitely a good helping hand in the long run.

8 | Marriage is a bumpy road. You would think after being with someone for so long, you would know the in's and out's, but it doesn't get easier over time. I can see where most people would have enough and walk away. Being devoted and honest and open is vital.

9 | Books can/will save you. There have been many a night where I've sat reading a book, having previously been in a horrible mood, and suddenly I feel completely refreshed. Books have the amazing power to transport you and make you feel at ease with yourself. I will never stop reading.

10 | Saving money is smart. Duh. Everyone should have a budget and be saving their money as much and often as possible. Sometimes it's not easy, but even if it's just as little as five dollars every paycheck, it will go a long way.

11 | That damned credit score will haunt you. Why don't they teach credit score management in high school? Letting your score fall to a horrible number will put you in a bad situation for years. Do you know how hard it is to raise that score back up? Because I definitely do. Get yourself into a routine with your money and your score, because it will save you a ton of headaches in the future.

12 | Migraines and headaches are definitely different. I'm an avid headache victim. Like, constant headaches. I also sometimes get migraines. All of this is from the tension in my shoulders and yes, the two are completely different. I've finally got some relief from them thanks to my doctor, so seriously, if you're suffering from these as well, seek help.

13 | Your religion isn't something to shy away from. Hot topic here, from what I've experienced. A lot of people don't care to know about your religion or what your God does. I've become a lot more open with God, though some don't want to know about it. It does hurt to know that my friends probably think I'm a joke for believing, but being confident with it is something I've been learning to embrace.

14 | You're not weird. What even is weird, anyway? "I'm just weird!" People say that a lot but honestly, everyone has their quirks. Everyone is weird, in their own way.

15 | Death sneaks up on you. Sounds like a tagline to some movie coming out, but this is true. You're never really prepared for death, even if you think you are. It will still hit you like a ton of bricks and you'll feel like you can't breathe through all the grief. We all know death comes and is natural, but do we ever really come to terms with it?

16 | Put the phone down. I've gotten into the habit of looking down at my phone when I'm with company. And I know how rude and insulting it can feel. I've learned to just set it aside and live in the moment with the people around me. Sure, everyone wants to document their day, but why? Why does the world need to know you ate chicken today, Susan?

17 | Summer is dreadful. I used to look forward to summer. I now know it was only because we didn't have school. Summer really is the worst month for me. I don't agree with the heat and I just honestly wish it would go away.

18 | Never use a sunscreen oil. Trust me on this one, okay?

19 | Just say yes. Agree to do things you wouldn't normally do. Go outside your comfort zone. Don't let the introvert side of you stop yourself from getting out of the house and seeing people. It's really not that bad.

20 | You are not your anxiety. It used to control my life. But no one would ever be able to tell. Over the years, I've lost friends and opportunities because of it, and it's an uphill struggle trying to come to grips with the thing. Slowly, but surely. Nothing happens over night.

21 | Take pictures with loved ones. This used to be such an easy task in my teens and early twenties. But I've realized that I don't tend to whip out the camera much anymore. I think it has something to do with the fact that I'm definitely not comfortable in my own body at the moment. But you'll regret not getting those snaps when you could have.

22 | If something doesn't seem right, it isn't. The sibling of trusting your gut. If you read or hear something in the news that doesn't sound right, it most likely isn't. To quote House; "Everybody lies."

23 | Your favorite color is going to change. A lot. Do I like yellow? Or green? Or is it purple? Mint green? This is such an ice-breaking question, how do I know how to answer it?!

24 | People show their true colors in the workplace. And let me tell you, it's not pretty when they do. You really see how people are deep down when they're speaking to someone who's 'lower on the corporate ladder' than they are.

25 | Some people will only talk to you because of how much money you make. Whether family or friends, whether they want to 'borrow' some or just want to be around it, some people only like you for your money. Do not trust these people.

26 | Do trust those that have nothing to give, but do anyway. Everyone's had hard times. When someone offers you something because you need it, even if they can't afford to be without it themselves, those are the ones you should trust. These are your true blues. Your ride or dies.

27 | Keep a journal. I used to keep a diary when I was younger, and I think I stopped writing daily sometime in high school. It's always been fun and cringey to look back. I've started up again.

28 | Love no matter what. Love is something you should never regret. It's an amazing feeling and to have loved something/someone, is wonderful.

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